Crazy OTT reaction? Thoughts please

[fuzzy]

Happened just before....

So I was driving home with my daughter and turning into a road not far from home theres a man about 55/60 in the road waving traffic past a lorry on a blind bend. the lorry was delivering building good to his property. I aint 100% sure if its the owner or builder but he then waves in a motion meaning to me slow down, i knew he meant stop but thought i may be able to slide past so just pulled out a little to peep round. he started to wave frantically and i stopped immediatly, i was still around 10m from the lorry if not more. he came to the window very agressive and swore.

I pulled the handbrake and got out the door (no closer to him just so he could hear), I said I have a child in here and he continued with his abuse saying i was driving like a maniac and i nearly killed everyone, next thing there were a couple of them, the lorry had pulled away, traffic was behind me and hes yelling at me to get in the car and vacate! I wasn sure what to do, had i said anything back it would surely have escallated he was so angry so i got back in, checked my daughter was ok and drove of. i pass this house several times a day, i didnt want the stress every time

im not pretending i was not to blame at all, but i am saying he response was disproportionate to me peeping to see if i could slide past, especially when having a kid in the car, no problem came about, im not daft i didnt put us in danger. his hand signal left alot to be desired.

I could have suggested i didnt understand his amateur hand signals, I could have said he was being dangerous, Im not sure but it wouldnt surprise me if it wernt legal, however i just moved on.

Now im anoyed i didnt give him some back, what should i have done?

 

[dontknowitall]

Chucked a smoke pellet in his cab.

 

[Resolute]

I reckon you did the right thing. I'd have felt the same but if you let your temper get the better then you may have ended up charged with assault or come worse off - not to mention u wouldn't wanna be fighting in front of your daughter.

 

[GasmanxxxR1]

You should have got it off your chest and told him to eff off, i always feel better afterwards if i gave as good as i got, without being violent.

 

[Hardy1]

fuzzy, i've alwaysssss been taught the bigger man never loses cool EVER!!!, and you done that so it shows just how much of a idiot he really is, dont beat yourself up over it, you done the right thingg, good one.

 

[secret squirrel]

fuzzy, i've alwaysssss been taught the bigger man never loses cool EVER!!!, and you done that so it shows just how much of a idiot he really is, dont beat yourself up over it, you done the right thingg, good one.

Yeah, your right, of course your right.

I carry a tomahawk axe in my van though just for situation like this, wouldn't be the first time I've thrown some ignorant rude chap across the bonnet of his vehicle and it won't be the last.

And yes, I know I'm wrong, trouble is people like this are bullies and just because there is 3 of them they get brave. Always hit the lippy one, the rest will stand there huffing and puffing and fall into the crowd.

Hardy1, as I've said your right and I admire your attitude but I think society has changed. People (too many people) look at kindness as a sign of weakness and the fact that your not agressive as sign of a weak character. Army/police/bouncer has taught me that.

But descretion is the better part of valour especially with a kid in the car.

 

[Puddle]

Think you should go and knock on his door tomorrow when you are passing and give him a bottle of whisky and apologise for not stopping as requested and following his hand signals and explain how sorry you feel about getting him wound up and causing him to use fowl language in front of your daughter!!!!!

You should be ashamed of your actions tonight,nearly as ashamed as weeing in the bottle of Whisky !!!!

:gunsmilie:

imho

 

[fuzzy]

thanks guys, he manners left a lot to be desired, I've had my fair share of fall outs but now it just saps my faith. Why should we descend into chaos at a small mistake. Im a big fella and I often find im in a no win situation, i was always blamed for being the aggressor even if i wasnt. say i had squared up to him, lots of witnesses, daughter in car, him old man trying to help traffic gets thumped by thug, i can see it now. Then it would be seen as fair game for all his builder mates to jump in

I just hope when he calmed down he felt ashamed of himself

 

[jase158]

go to his house when he aint home, turn water off at stop tap, he will be puzzled for ages and spend days trying to find out what is wrong.

Then remind yourself that getting angry in front of your daughter is a great life lesson for her, she saw you stand down from an argument and one day when somebody starts on her, she will just walk away. well done, for not kicking off, just remember he will get his karma one day.

 

[Billy Bob Bob]

if my daughter was in the car or van with me i would have got out,shut the door and politely told him to go back inside you stupid old git if that did not work i would have kicked him in the knackers stupid old fart

 

[Dannypipe]

Trust me, had you smacked him in the face, then you would be worried about it, and disapointed that you acted like a thug infront of your daughter.

You did the adult thing...he was just being a pk. They're everywhere I'm afraid. Not worth getting into a punch up over.

 

[jase158]

And think how bad it would look, punching an old man on rememberance week/ month

 

[Billy Bob Bob]

just kick him in the balls it will look like he has fainted

 

[dontknowitall]

He would also be too embarrassed to talk for a few days ...

 

[Billy Bob Bob]

He would also be too embarrassed to talk for a few days ...

and probably have a high pitched voice

 

[dontknowitall]

Funny how the brain thinks, isn't it?

Initially, I was thinking about the squeaky voice but you were thinking about the chap hitting someone else for no reason. Then with the remark I made you were thinking about the voice and I was thinking about the ....blah, blah.

 

[stevetheplumber]

i used to be the worlds worst for hitting out at pks like that
im not sure if im glad or sad that age has mellowed me
the plus is my son ,who is a big fellah now,is the opposite, a great one for calming situations down sensibly im very proud that his not like i was

 

[REDSAW]

since you are being a total nonce to my face, after i have dropped off my daughter i shall return to the office and review the building consent form due to logistical saftey issues for the site. therefore dont be surprised that i may shut it down.
i will inform the owner by post. :smug2:
call him a t 4 tat then casually drive off.

 

[fuzzy]

the thought did cross my mind redsaw, im sure looking at his site there would be a few H&S issues i could report