While we're on the subject of respect and disrespect and the causing or taking of offense...
"There are two words which have become rather creepy in the last few years: One is 'respect.' And the other word is 'offense.' It's now rather common to hear people say "Well I'm offended by that', as if that gives them certain rights.
It's actually nothing more than a whine, it's no more than a whine. It has no meaning, it has no purpose, it has no reason to be 'respected' as a phrase. 'I am offended by that!'... Well so ****ing what?"
-Stephen Fry
Courtesy I think is a better word. Nothing wrong with courtesy. But there's no duty to respect anyone or their opinions or attitudes. Infact often there's a duty to do quite the opposite.