hurdy

[hurdy]

hi guys its hurdy. well guys life has taken a sureal turn,mother is still here with us but she has come home to die,and is in her own home with constant care,as already said by others,i am starting to come to turms with this,and am making my pease with god.but just when,things seam to be going fine,my mothres ex who is my dad,ring me on friday to say his partner has cancer of the sarcofigus but its treatable think iv heard that one before,with mother,then says buy the way,iv got a shadow on the lung,and am awaiting tests,iv suddenly become,very confused,and dont know how to handle this,my first reaction is to go out tonight and get very drunk,i know this is not the answer,but it may take away the pain ifeel right now,i will talk to you guys soon as im finding it hard to keep myself togethre right now.

 

[Barry98]

Be as strong as you can be fella , am sure I speak for all the boys n girls on here when we send our love and prayers to you and all your family

 

[diamondgas]

Hi hurdy ... times such as you're entering have little words of comfort. You mention your making peace with God; I pray that He will be a source of solace for you and those dealing with the painful times.

Surround yourself with friends .. Talk to those you share your life with and can trust with your feelings. take each day, hour, minute, at a time and be gentle with yourself.

 

[kris]

Hi Hurdy , youve had a hard time of late and hopefully things will get better, its hard when its close family , enjoy time with your mum , be strong and the forum will always be here for a shoulder to cry on,

 

[Dotty]

Hi Hurdy

Have a drink if you must but don't let it become your crutch. All it'll do is make everything go away for a short period. Talk to people, your friends, your family, us.

Between us we've hundreds, if not thousands, of years of real life experience.

And, if nothing else, we'll sit and listen while you unload your problems which most people find helps a great load.

Keep safe buddy, Love to you and yours.

 

[turnpin]

Hi Hurdy think the guys have said what we all think keep strong and look after yourself love and prayers to you and your family at these difficult times...Turnpin

 

[townfanjon]

By eck mate you are having it bloody rough pal, mum being home is without a doubt the best for you all, but all the rest really doesn't help. DONT go out and get blathered, it doesn't achieve a bloody thing, just do your best , hang on in there , and try be strong for your mum.

 

[brum]

All the best fella im in Scotland with my dad being terminally ill in Birmingham so I kinda know what the deal is the closest person in my life ever was my nan I was lucky enough to be there all day with her on her final day we chatted about the things we used to do together when I was a kid I had my chance to say goodbye so many others don't you have your chance now make the most and try to not hit the drink all the very best with respect..Mark

 

[WHPES]

My advice is simple. The most important thing for you - talk it over with people you know and trust. Things are so much better when people have someone to talk to. The drink won't help, unless you have a good friend to share one or two over and talk it through with.

 

[SimonG]

Get it off your chest, worst thing to do is bottle it all up.

 

[Dotty]

My advice is simple. The most important thing for you - talk it over with people you know and trust. Things are so much better when people have someone to talk to. The drink won't help, unless you have a good friend to share one or two over and talk it through with.

Get it off your chest, worst thing to do is bottle it all up.

x2

 

[Ray Stafford]

Hurdy, I don't know what to say. But the advice above is A1, I reckon.

Peace and tranquility to you and yours.

 

[Masood]

Can't add anything to what's already been said, hurdy, except that my thoughts and hopes are with you and your family. Know that we are all your friends and here for you if and when you need a shoulder to cry on.

I wish you strength and serenity in these trying times. All the best buddy.

 

[Ermintrude]

Jebus. Chin up smile, if your smiling people round you will. Happiness helps others, getting smashed won't. Go for a walk have a cry go home and be the best son u can!

 

[hurdy]

hi guys its hurdy. well idid go to the pub tonight,because i felt so shaken ,i took a family member with me ,a guy i can trust,and talked my feelings through.he was a rock,when faced with such adversaty,it sometimes needs some one to give you clarity, and a guiding hand,i still feel the same, but have some ,re newed vigour. to day i have never felt so alone in the world,and i think i reached an all time low. at least you guys are around for me.to which i am eternaly greatfull.there is still a road to walk ,which i must face alone .but i can take some comfort,in knowing you guys stand with me,god bless you all and thanks for your friendship.your friend hurdy.:bigcry:

 

[kris]

Thats good you had someone to talk to, reading all these posts theres some great words from the guys, its true what they say about time being a heeler , the grief is a natural process that we all walk through in our life time , just try to stay strong for yourself and you will slowly heel , all our thoughts are with you Hurdy,

 

[oz-plumber]

Hey Hurdy,

It's almost 18 months since I lost my 'old man' to Cancer.
Not a day goes by without me thinking about him...good and bad.
Honestly... probably not an hour goes by.

I , as well as many others - on here and elsewhere - know you are in for a tough ride.... we've been there.

Spend as much time as you can with your Mum.

You both need each other, as much as each other.

I know its hard....hardest thing I've ever faced, seeing the 'old man' go.
I regret, and will always, regret not spending more time with him in his last few days.

I don't know how to write what I want to without sounding harsh... but here goes.

You will have along time to grieve for you mum, but don't have any regrets that will add to your grieving.

Feel for you Pal

Oz