Fezster,
First of all lets try and establish something about your boiler, the data you gave appear to indicate that you cannot drop the boiler flow less than 0.45 ls so this is the max and min flow rolled into in, in other words the boiler manufactures doesn't no want any reduction in boiler flow at any time, I hope we have this right.
You could try this, open all your heat emitters, take of all control valves so that you have the full flow rate through the system, I am assuming the system is balanced properly, now open the ABV fully so that the spring pressure is released, this will cause most or some of the water to go through the bypass and starve the system side, with the boiler running slowly close the ABV each time you close it a bit go and test the F/R on each of the emitters, when you are happy that all the emitters are at design temperature, then you in balance , there may well be still water going around the ABV you will never know, I have said before a flow meter can be used but, the roof came in on me the last time so I won't go there, I doubt if anyone really knows what's going on around the ABV area in any domestic system, if you think there is a science to setting up a ABV, then think again, they work to the nearest brick, look if you get it wrong you will know soon enough, when the boiler starts dancing.
Its a bit like Nostrum said in the last post, take your time with it!!